Difficult and independent women, instruction manual.
Those girls who never answer calls and leave you “read” on WhatsApp. Those girls. Even if we do things right, they are women who rarely pay attention to us: for them we seem almost invisible.
In the end, we become a mess and we do not stop thinking that we are the guilty ones of the situation: “Why do not you call me?”, “I am very little man for her”, “I do not understand anything”, and similar laments.
Bad girls, guide to understand them
There are many women who believe (and they do not lack reason) that the female sex has been unfairly treated for centuries, and that even today girls must deal with many prejudices and grievances compared to men. It is a frustrating feeling to see that you have fewer opportunities in life for something as arbitrary as being born a woman.
In the section on love relationships, females have also suffered a lot. They have been treated little less than as objects, used to procreate, violated and no longer. With all this culture, it is not uncommon that inequalities continue to exist and that some believe that they should exercise as a “complement” to their boyfriends or husbands. The idea is totally wrong, but it still exists even in the 21st century.
Obviously, more and more girls are getting rid of these stereotypes and decide to act with autonomy and freedom.
Women who assert themselves … maybe a little too much
Have you ever met a “bad girl”? They are those women who carry their independence to the ultimate consequences. Okay, it may sound a little hard to refer to them with a negative adjective (“bad”): after all, they are fully entitled to act in the way they think is most appropriate, right?
But, what is undeniable, is that the boys (or homosexual girls) who pretend to have a romantic relationship with these bad girls end up completely deranged, confused and without knowing what is happening around them.
Why do some men pining for bad girls?
In another Psychology and Mind article, called “Dark Triad: why women prefer hard guys”, we already realized that there is something in the personality of “bad” men that attracts especially women.
But this can be a phenomenon that not only helps men to be more attractive and to captivate women. It can also happen in reverse, there are also “Dark Triad” girls who are starting to impose their rules.
The attraction for complicated relationships
The human being tends to try impossible companies. We like to play to be protagonists of the Odyssey and try to achieve absolutely heroic goals. It may be that there is something in that psychological trap that drives us to have a predilection for those relationships that are more complicated.
To tell the truth, nobody likes something that everyone can have without effort. We are like this: we like the exclusive, what it has cost us sweat and tears to have. It is a little pitiful that we have this taste for the exclusive, especially when we talk about material goods. After all, a utility car takes you to the same place as a spectacular sports car. But…
This works similar to finding a partner. We are obsessed with those people who make it difficult for us, who make us suffer and who give us one of lime and another of sand. We have this point of masochism, and we can not avoid it.
Good women and not so good women
Many women have realized that being good and complacent with their boyfriends is a bad business. The only thing they get is to be ignored and manipulated by them. “Not so good” women have simply learned to play with other cards.
This type of girls tends to be characterized by being more independent, autonomous in their love life, proactive and unconflicted. They have life beyond being tied to a man, they have hobbies and varied passions. If we look at it in a somewhat critical way, we can also say that bad girls can be elusive and detached.
How do these types of girls act?
I would like to clarify something: I do not want to make any value judgments about “good” or “bad” girls, even though the labels are these. Any person has every right to act as he pleases, and no one should judge another person.
It is also not about promoting the habits and attitudes of “good” or “bad” girls. I simply want to describe some trends and reflect on them, or at least serve as a starting point for you, as a reader, to ask yourself some questions.
Relationships are always difficult. It is possible that, if we stop to think about the rise of bad girls, we realize that, perhaps, we have been in some occasion victims or executioners of this type of relations.
Through a total of five keys, we can try to understand the psychology of difficult women and the reason why we find them more attractive, in general. And, of course, we will know why they hurt us so much.
In the end, women who meet these characteristics have incredible virtues: they love themselves, they are demanding with their interpersonal relationships and they know that, in this life, the most important thing is to take care of oneself.
Rules 1: Attraction is based on authenticity
It is not necessary that they be women with super exciting lives to be crazy about them. They are simply girls who do not give much importance to having a boyfriend. They are natural, they are as they are and they will not adapt to you to like you. In any case, adapt yourself to them.
Rules 2: Challenge
What challenges us is more valuable. When we feel we have control over something or someone, we may lose interest. But when being with a person is a daily challenge, the attraction increases. Some girls know this and use it.
Rules 3: They like a lot
Bad girls like each other, and a lot. This attitude allows others to perceive them as well: as very valuable, self-confident and seductive. This is the basis of everything: women with this personality know how to attract dozens of men.
Rules 4: Accept the loneliness
The women we have described are also differentiated by one characteristic: they are not afraid to be alone. This differentiates them from the “normal girls”, who usually believe that they must be with a man to be happy. They, the bad girls, know that their life is more important and that their life should not be based on the company they have.
Rules 5: They are enforced
Men know that there are some “friends” who may be available for a long time to stay with us and satisfy our desires. There is nothing wrong with that. But bad women never agree to that. If you do not prioritize them, you have nothing to do. It is impossible for them to agree to see you if they notice that you are using them.
Some conclusions about these women
There are several guides and books that talk about these girls. Each person is a world and bad girls are neither better nor worse, simply different. They are so different, they can make many kids lose their heads for them.
Have you met any “bad girl” in your life? How was your experience? You can explain it to us in the comments section or in our social networks.